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Topic: Isis, How'd It Go Last Night?

Not asking for details, just wanted to see how you're feeling.  Hope you're doing okay.

I thought he seemed like a nice guy and he didn't just SIT there and LISTEN. He actually offered some suggestions which I like. He told me I'm an adult female with needs that aren't being met and I unless I stop playing the mommy/caregiver/disciplinarian role, my marriage won't work. He said I need to talk to my husband and tell him I'm not his mom, I'm not his nanny and we have to be in this thing together. That may take some time. My hubby not really good with confrontation. then he told me to go out and get a couple books. He said just peruse through the self help section and see what catches your fancy. He said I want you to bring them with you next week. Maybe he's trying to see if I think what's wrong with me is the same thing that he thinks is wrong with me! LOL!
You know what really sucks tho? He told me my insurance only pays for 4 visits!! How can anyone undo years of stress and damage in 4 once-a-week hours?? I'll take it one step at a time. Burn that bridge when I get to it!

Thanks for asking!!

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That insurance coverage is a joke! Even a dozen appointments is often not enough. Maybe your therapist will give you a sliding scale rate once your insurance runs out; you can ask him about it when the time comes. I'm guessing the thing with the books is for him to see what approach appeals to you so he can tailor your therapy to your individual way of thinking. Just a guess. Good luck and let us know how you're doing as you go through this process. You should be proud of yourself for tackling your issues head-on. ~i&b

Thanks, so much i&b, really you have no idea how much the support of a bunch of people I've never even met (yet feel like I know) means to me. It would have been so easy for me to just call up and cancel that appointment at the last minute. But I plodded along! My husbands company used to offer us the best insurance ever! i mean it was truly gold star! 5 dollar co pays for EVERY DOC, 10$ for EVERY SCRIPT!! Then this past year, they decided to cheap out on us and changed plans. Many people have told me , oh just be thankful you have ANY insurance at all, , and I am grateful, but my husband is in a union. If this union isn't working for him, what's the freakin' point of having a union??? You pay union dues for what? so they can downgrade your insurance anytime they want?? It totally pisses me off!!! I got two prescriptions yesterday and it cost me $50!! I know! i am still better off than some, but this is gonna break my bank!!! Therapist already said he would work with me when time comes! ///Isis

I know what you're saying. Just because they have insurance not everyone can afford the co-pays, especially if they need a lot of doctor's visits or prescriptions. Last year when I had my hellacious surgery and was in so much misery, it struck me that rather than having to pay the various co-pays associated with it someone should have been paying ME for my pain and suffering. LOL! Hang in there. ~i&b

Isis, you may want to call your insurance company about the 4-visit limit. When I was going, my insurance paid for 3 visits initially, then the provider had to put in a request for more visits and at that time I was approved for (something like) 26 more. I can't imagine a limit of 4 visits, that's barely enough time for you and the therapist get to know each other, let alone make any progress. Make sure you (and he) completely understand your benefits! //Wendi

Oh, ok! good idea! Thanks! ///Isis

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Posted by: Wendi
Date posted: Wed Jan 18 11:05:36 2012
Message:
i&b, Isis will probably answer you here but until she has a chance, she did post a brief follow-up in her topic above - it's the first (top) response under her original post. Just thought you'd like to know so you don't have to wonder about it until she comes back here (you know how busy she is!)

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Thanks, Wendi you're a gem!!!! ///Isis

Thanks, Wendi. ~i&b

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