All My Children Discussion Group -- Just an Update on Eli

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Topic: Just an Update on Eli

Topic Posted by: MamaMia
Date Posted: Tue Feb 7 16:20:59 2012
Additional Comments: Well, my husband Eli was discharged from the hospital today. It was a total of about six weeks with one discharge from the hospital lasting a few days and then he had to go back to the hospital again. Hopefully, things are under control and there will be no more episodes. One thing happened with me: I am not a Highway driver and now I am. I just had to do it. The first two times though were with Eli's niece and then I went solo. I had a huge fear, not of being on the highway or getting off of it, but the ''initial on'' part. I want to thank all of you for your support and friendship. It's been ''trying'' and exhausting to say the least. He lost a lot of weight and I found most of it!!!!

Posted by: Miss.Bear
Date posted: Thu Feb 9 2:10:47 2012
Message:
I'm glad he is doing better. That is real burden lifted. I hope he continues to do better. As far as highway driving goes, I have a confession, I never drove on a highway before. I'm afraid of getting off the ramp onto the highway. It's not driving on the highway or exiting that scares me it's getting on. Maybe one day I can do it. I pass the highway on my to school every week. Glad you were able to drive on the highway and glad your husband is doing better.

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Thank you for the positive thoughts. My main fear all these years was just getting on the Highway, not afraid of driving on it, not liking to go into other lanes either. Getting off the Highway is fine - just the beginning of the whole thing. As I'm driving on the highway more and more lately, it truly is getting easier although my hands are still clutching the wheel tightly. I wish I would have practiced in the past just getting on and off the highway, going for one exit - getting off and then repeating it until I got used to it. It would have helped me a lot. Good luck with conquoring this, Miss. B. Once you do, it'll open up so many things. Now I feel confident about visiting people again who don't live near me. MM

Posted by: goldie
Date posted: Wed Feb 8 12:55:42 2012
Message:
Some things just come easier for others, but when we are faced with an emergency with family then we always come through. You did good.

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Yes, we do what we have to do and we manage somehow. MM

Posted by: krisa225
Date posted: Wed Feb 8 12:43:33 2012
Message:

what great news, I'm sure everyone will sleep good tonite! best wishes for a speedy recovery and some relaxation too!

congrats also on becoming a hi-way driver... sometimes we just gotta do what we gotta do! I'm sure you're husband appreciated every visit from you too.

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Family members visited him on and off so that was good. Six weeks is quite awhile to be in hospitals. Our birthdays are fast approaching, by the way. MM

Posted by: Anita Lyfe
Date posted: Wed Feb 8 9:12:16 2012
Message:
Hope things keep moving along for you and Eli~

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This is the main thing for us - that he now improve and keep improving. MM

Posted by: Wendi
Date posted: Wed Feb 8 8:32:38 2012
Message:

Wonderful news MM! Best wishes for a speedy and complete recovery for Eli under your tender loving care, and I hope this gives you more time to relax and take care of the caretaker. My mom is the same way about highway driving - "merge" is a four letter word to her!

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Merge IS a four letter word LOL - have to remember that one. MM

Posted by: Angela
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 19:36:18 2012
Message:
I am so glad he's home! That's great news! It took me years to go on the highway. I still don't like it but sometimes I have no choice. I'm so proud of you. I'm sure you did great!! (( hugs )).. xoxo

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Those darn big trucks - I hate them. I was behind one the other day and it kept spraying me (not nice LOL). MM

Posted by: Kenara
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 19:32:24 2012
Message:
Enjoy having him home again! Be sure you relax too--it will be good for him and for you.

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Good to be alone again in the apartment. Eli's niece was helping me and, believe me, it was a huge help but now it's just us. Thanks for the good wishes. MM

Posted by: valleygirl
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 18:46:10 2012
Message:
I am so happy to hear that Eli is finally home, and pray that it is for keeps this time. You have both been through such a long and difficult journey, and have remained in my thoughts and prayers throughout. I know you've felt the warmth and support from this board, and that it has meant the world to you.

I'm so proud of you for conquering the highway. I admitted to you when Eli was first hospitalized that I had complete sympathy with you because I too avoid driving on the major highways. It is the merging that also frightens me.

Your stress score has topped the charts, MM, but you have handled it with grace and humour. You are my hero.

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When I'm on the highway, I'm always first praying that I make it there and back safely and then repeating to myself ''man up''. That phrase is something a friend of mine says to herself. MM

Posted by: SheilaT
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 17:34:03 2012
Message:

Thank goodness Eli is finally home from the hospital, MamaMia. It means he is better, but also that you don't have to do that highway stuff anymore!

Okay, confession time here . . . In the summer and fall of 2010, my sister was hospitalized for serious cardiac issues, including a few procedures for a pacemaker etc. I was the designated person to visit her, take her to doctor appointments., and other miscellaneous errands. Her hospital is in Fairfax County, 50 miles away from me and accessible by the dreaded Capital Beltway, which I hate. When my husband or I go to the doctor we drive somewhere in our sleepy part of the world or take the train to DC. Worst case scenario, MrT does the driving, not me. So I can totally relate to the stress you felt during Eli's stay in the hospital . . . highway anxiety as well as worrying about your hubby. I felt it too, not only in 2010 with the heart issues, but last year at this time, when my sister was going through her breast cancer and lumpectomy with associated hospitalizations and doctor's visits.

Now we just need you to relax and Eli to finish getting better!

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Sheila - I hope that your sister is now greatly improved and will continue to improve. As for the highway driving, Eli has follow-up appointments in the hospital but I want to do the driving for the experience (stupid? LOL). I'm always clutching the wheel like it's glue. MM

I hear you about clutching the wheel, MM! Yes, my sister is doing quite well after a year and a half of one health scare after another. And I admire you for wanting to drive to the follow ups. You're a better woman than I am! /SheilaT

Posted by: Holly
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 17:13:03 2012
Message:
MamaMia, I'm so glad that Eli is home from the hospital. I know that this has been a difficult time for you. I hope that Eli has a good recovery and gets better and better in the days to come.

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Thanks Holly. I was telling one doctor the other day that I was ready to start bringing pictures to hang up in his room over there. I'm glad (and hoping) that the road ahead will be good. MM

Posted by: SqueezeMe
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 16:57:32 2012
Message:

MM, I'm so happy to hear that Eli is home. He must be so glad to be out of that hospital, and I don't imagine you're going to miss it either. I know you want to take care of Eli, but take care of yourself too. I hope it's smooth sailing for both of you from now on.

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Yes, spouses, significant others and friends run down their resistance in lots of ways when they care for someone - mentally and physically. Thanks for the good wishes... MM/Luna

Posted by: W.E.
Date posted: Tue Feb 7 16:23:46 2012
Message:

No matter what you always leave us with a smile (re: your last statement).

I'm so happy he's home and on the mend. What a trying beginning to the year you both had. May the rest of 2012 and beyond find you both happy and healthy!!

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Thanks so much. It's really been draining to say the very least. MM